Ask Evie: The junior who tells it like it is

Evie H.

Managing Editor

She needs to make up her mind!

                So Evie, there is a girl I like who has a boyfriend.  He plays on a team with me, and he and I get along really well. She asked me if would I go out with her, and I said that I would.  I asked her about her relationship with her boyfriend.  She said it was on-again off-again, and she did not know where it was going. I do not really know what she wants from me. I do not know whether she is serious. What should I do?

Dear Confused Carter – Although she may think it is cute to be toying with the both of you guys, one of you needs to ask her how she really feels. The answer may hurt one of you, but she cannot continue acting the way she is. A relationship is based on trust, and without her telling you the truth, you may as well believe everything she says is a lie. Try listening to her and watch the way she acts. Most of all, tell her that she needs to make up her mind.

I am worried about my friend

                Evie, I have a problem. One of my friends is going to parties when she tells her mom she is going to my house to study. I am covering for her now, but the parties she goes to are really dangerous. I told her I would never tell her secrets, but I am not so sure now.

Dear Worried Wendy – This situation is a tough one. I understand that you do not want to “tattle” on your friend, but if you are worried about her well-being, it might be in your best interest to let her parents know. Her mom cannot continue to be lied to, yet her mom needs to understand the ideals of growing up. The more rules her mom enforces, the more your friend will rebel. The most I can say is that you should talk to her mom in a mature way, without making it sound like your friend/her daughter is a bad person. Express your feelings to her, and everything will be okay!

I need to reach my goal!

                Hey Evie, my New Year’s resolution is to do better in school, but I have always had straight C’s. How do I keep my resolution for 2013?

Dear Focused Francis – First of all, you need to focus. It is not difficult to maintain good grades if you have the right mindset. Personally, I would think of the end result that would happen once you made good grades. Maybe make a deal with your parents. If you make all A’s and B’s, maybe your parents will buy you that new phone you have been wanting. Also, work on time management. When you get home from school, try doing half of your homework. That way, you can take a break, talk to your friends, and get the rest done in a timely fashion later. Most importantly, if you do not understand the material, ask. Others cannot help you if you keep your mouth shut.

I am so stressed out

                Evie, help me! I have four tests coming up, and I am totally freaking out.  I really do not like school, and I feel like all I do is work for school.  I do not even know where to begin.

Dear Stressed Sally – First and foremost, breathe. Organize your thoughts, take a minute to prepare yourself, and breathe. I tell myself these things every day. Trust me, with my schedule, it takes everything to not have a nervous breakdown. For me, when I have loads of tests coming up, I pick one night a week to study for one certain subject. Monday is history, Tuesday is math, Wednesday is science, etc. If you allow one night to devote entirely to one subject, a little bit of stress is relieved. Also, try studying with your friends. Without even noticing it, the pressure of being all alone is lifted, and you realize your friends want you to pass, too.

High school relationships: Do they last?

                Evie, I need your advice. Do you believe young love can last? I have trust issues, and it weighs our relationship down. I wonder if this heartache is worth it, since most people say that high school relationships rarely last.

Dear Skeptical Stacy – Honestly, I believe young love can last, but I do not think high school relationships are worth it. Although they teach you an important lesson, there is so much more to be worried about in high school than the opposite sex. Maybe I was the wrong person to ask, but I feel as if there is so much more in high school than feeling like you are tied down. Also, the trust issues affect everyone. I do not mean to sound harsh, but you have to move on and let it go. You cannot live your life with your guard up, or you will find out that love does not last at all. oHon            

For more answers to your questions, contact me at evieherbst@gmail.com.

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