Ask Evie: The junior who tells it like it is

Evie H.

Assistant Editor

My parents are trying to control my love life!

Evie, I need help. My girlfriend and I have been going out for three months. She is a lot older than I am. I am actually not allowed to date, and my parents just discovered our relationship. They are trying to break us up. They blame her because she is older. They are saying that she is making me disobey them. They refuse to let us be friends or even to let me talk to her anymore. I really like her, and neither of us wants to break up. What do you think I should do?

Dear Sad Stanley: Personally I believe that age is just a number, but it depends how much of a gap the two of you have between yourselves. If she is but two years older than you, I do not see a problem with it, but as long as you are living under your parents’ roof, you should obey their rules. It may seem as if they are trying to control your love life, when in reality, they do not want to see any harm come towards you. For now, I would take a break from this girl and see if you find someone else who makes you just as happy as she did. If it is meant to be, destiny will put you two back together. The main point I am trying to make is that your family comes before your relationships. Keep your parents happy first and foremost.

My future is looming!

I am really stressing about college. I haven’t received my acceptances yet from the colleges I applied to, and I am worried that I will not get into any of them. I need ways to stop my stress. HELP ME!

Dear Anxious Annie: First, take a few deep breaths. If you did all that you need to in high school to prepare for college, than you should have nothing to worry about. Many colleges receive thousands of applicants, and it may take longer than usual to get yours back. That does not mean you did not get in. To cope with your stress, I suggest taking a walk or distracting yourself from the thought of checking the mail every five minutes. Go hangout with friends and enjoy the last few months you have with them before you leave for college. Just think, even if you do get rejected, it just opens a new door for another experience. Do not be fearful, as I am sure everything will work out just fine.

My past is ruining my future!

Evie, I have recently gotten a new boyfriend, but my past mistakes and heartbreaks are getting in the way of our relationship. I’m scared he’ll break my heart just like my past boyfriends did, or he’ll treat me badly. He’s been a great guy so far, and I really like him, but what can I do to get past these feelings?!

Dear Scared Samantha: I have been there before. I know exactly how it feels to be hurt from relationships, but you just have to keep telling yourself that you cannot let your past ruin your future with someone else. If this guy has been nothing but nice to you so far, do not give up on him just yet. He may be the one who breaks the cycle and changes the way you view relationships. Personally, I believe that eventually everyone meets that one person who changes the way he or she thought about relationships, and this could be that person. I think you should stick with him and see what all he has to offer. You may be surprised that he is in it for the long run and will do anything to see you happy. It takes time, but eventually you will trust him and know he is not looking to hurt you.

I need help studying!

Evie, I need some advice. Recently, I realized that I do not have the study efforts that I used to have towards the beginning of high school. I am just not motivated anymore, and I was wondering if you had any tips to help me study for finals. I need to make good grades in order to pass. Please help!

Dear Tired Timmy: I understand that high school gets harder as it goes on, but you just have to stick with it. It prepares you for your future, and you do not have time to not focus on your studies. For finals, I would make flash cards, play review games, and even have study sessions with your friends in order to make the experience easier on all of you. If you make studying fun, you are more likely to be willing to get it done. Also, just think, after finals, it is summer. Just get through that last grueling week, and you are free!

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