Parenting is a full time job

Kendra H.

Staff Writer

Parenting is possibly the most difficult, tricky, and exhausting job because children are a major responsibility; it seems that some parents do not choose to take the job seriously or are too lazy to discipline their children. There are many situations in which some people lack the commitment necessary when it comes to parenting. Public places are known for presenting situations in which a toddler could be seen running around unsupervised, such as a restaurant or a swimming pool. These are the moments when a parent has to make a choice and where things can go completely wrong.

When a child is tethered to a leash, then parents seems to be asking for others to question their parenting ability. When one thinks of a leash, he then usually thinks of a dog and not a child; children are not animals, and most have the ability to develop a sense of right and wrong at an early age. Words should be a child’s leash. Mrs. Johanna Marcusky, English teacher, feels that parents are portraying themselves as people who are not confident with their own set guidelines and boundaries for their child if they are utilizing a leash. Not only does using a leash reveal parents as unsure of their capabilities, but it can make them look lazy as well. Parenting takes dedication and perseverance, and a parent needs to know whether his child will listen rather than rely on a leash to do his job. If a leash is being used, then the child could realize he has more power and control than his parents, which could result in even worse behavior in the future. Mrs. Louise Graner, 10th grade English teacher, understands why some parents may use a leash in public places if thepet peeves pic two KHy feel their child could easily get lost, but there are many more sensible alternatives available. A child can hold his parent’s hand, ride in a stroller, or sit on his mom’s or dad’s shoulders — these are more efficient ways to stay connected to a child in a crowded area. Emily Nevitt, 12th grade Woodstock High School student, explains that a child could get out of a leash or even worse, pull his mom or dad around as if the parents were the ones being controlled. Alyssa Hall, 12th grade Woodstock high school student, explains, “Leashes in public become an annoying hazard to others because a person could trip over or run into them.” Parents need to take the time to assess whether their child is going to listen to them, and if the child runs away in a public setting, then there needs to be consequences.

There are many locations where parenting becomes extremely important; children generally misbehave in restaurants, and parents have the opportunity to eliminate the problem by taking action. Many times, children either run around unsupervised or throw temper tantrums. Both are unacceptable and should be extinguished immediately. Some parents choose to ignore their running and screaming children, which is extremely disrespectful to the other people trying to enjoy their meal. Children can be quite loud, and most people do not appreciate listening to a screaming child or dodging kids who are running around wildly. Parents need to be aware of their surroundings, and that includes their children, whether they are misbehaving or not. If a child is roaming around in a restaurant without supervision, then the parent is not doing his job. Discourtesy is rampant among the public, but there are many instances where a parent can take action to be courteous. If a child or baby is having a temper tantrum, simply telling them to calm down usually does not work; Mrs. Graner explains that if a child or baby begins screaming or crying, the child needs to be taken out of the place immediately. Parents have the choice to either stay in the restaurant with their screaming kid, trying and usually failing to console the child, or they can pick up the kid and leave. Leaving saves the rest of the customers from piercing screams; a child should have a consequence if he does not listen, and sometimes leaving the scene is the option that must be taken. Bree Murphy, 11th grade Woodstock High School student, explains that kids will be kids, and if they are being noisy due to happiness and excitement, then they should not be disturbed unless they themselves are disturbing those around them tremendously. It is understandable that kids want to have fun, but there is a fine line between enjoyment and misbehavior.

There are some locations where misbehavior from children can also become dangerous; the pool is a place where a child’s behavior can become deplorable. If a child is sprinting about or becoming extremely noisy and obnoxious, then the parent needs to step in. Parents cannot expect to truly relax when they take their child to the pool because they have to keep a constant eye on the child. If a parent is not watching his kid, then as Mrs. Graner says, “An unfair amount of responsibility is being placed on the lifeguard.” Lifeguards should be viewed as a backup in case something goes wrong, but the parent needs to be the one on watch at all times for the child’s safety and to make sure other people are not being bothered by the child’s behavior. Hall believes that the volume level of children can become bothersome when she is trying to relax at the pool, and this is the point where the parent needs to rein in his child. Whether it is volume or behavior that needs to be changed, parents should always strive to teach their kids the importance of courtesy and correct behavior in public.

Parenting cannot always be taught, so common sense should play a vital role. If a parent’s child is misbehaving or tends to stray from the parent’s view, then the parent needs to have certain consequences set up for the child and establish set limits and rules. Politeness is becoming more uncommon, but it can be the norm if parents begin doing their job wholeheartedly, which includes disciplining their children in situations where the children are being a problem.

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